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What is #NebraskaStrong?

Nebraska Strong

Nebraska was the 37th state to join this great country back in 1867 and is found smack dab in the middle of our great country. Our ancestors were homesteaders who made their homes out of nothing. They built their houses with their own hands. They built up their farmlands and cattle ranches with backbreaking hard work and the sweat of their brow. They did not expect handouts or free rides. If a neighbor was in trouble, a community banded together to help them, just because it was the right thing to do. They raised their families to work hard, love God and respect others.

The hashtag #NebraskaStrong went viral after widespread flooding hit Nebraska the early part of March 2019. Nebraska is fortunate to not have too many natural disasters to contend with. Some light flooding in certain rivers, tornadoes, heavy snow in some parts and even the occasional light earthquake. But in March all of that changed.

With the heavy amounts of water rushing to our rivers from melted snow and a very rainy period, each and every river in Nebraska began to fill and then overflow. Levies broke, dams were completely devastated. Many farmers and ranchers that lived miles away from large bodies of water found themselves battling floods with sandbags. Many, many familes had very little notice to evacuate their homes and livlihoods because it simply wasn’t safe for them to remain. Livestock were let free in hopes they would find their way to higher ground. Homes, businesses and even towns were completely leveled by the high levels of rushing water.

Within hours, churches and schools were opening their doors to the displaced families. Cries went out over social media to gather any supplies necessary to help these families. Towns like Fremont and Waterloo became islands overnight with no way in or out. In Waterloo, an Omaha pizza shop sent in pizza on his airboat, and the Christian Church became both shelter and food kitchen for everyone in town. Locals pitched in food and eggs so they could make meals for the families who were shut in. In Fremont, the Army Corp of Engineers and city officials eventuall dug a way into Fremont so 18 semi trucks of food and supplies could make their way in. Many, many, many smaller towns and communities were without clean drinking water. Within days, most of these communities were completely stocked up on water thanks to donations from fellow Nebraskans who were eager to help.

Much of this happened before FEMA even showed up. And most of this happened without any mention of our state’s disaster being on national media.

I won’t spend any time on government assistance in times of disaster or response time. I’m just giving you a bit of the time line. Before any outsider was even here, Nebraskans stood up in the gap to help. There were search and rescue missions within 24 hours of the flooding. There were people with boats helping to rescue stranded families. One brave hero lost his life during the process of helping rescue people. Nebraskans opened their homes, checkbooks, pantries and closets to anyone needing help. You could find at least 10 threads on Facebook about where to give and get assistance from those of us in the state wanting to help.

Were there scammers? Sure. There are rotten people who try to benefit from disasters such as these. But I haven’t heard of many. And the 2 cases I heard of were so broadly broadcast on TV and social media that the jackels trying to profit off of others misfortune are pretty much persona non grata in the great state of NE. A lady from Fremont was interviewed when a road was finally opened to Fremont. She was asked if there was any looting going on in town. She responded that the only looting that happened was people looting their own pantries to help each other out.

THAT, friends, is #NebraskaStrong. It is a deep-seeded way of thinking. It is the “never say never” attitude of our hard working citizens. It is noticeable in the way we raise our families, in the way we work hard at our jobs and in hte way we support our neighbors.

There’s not a 12 step progrm to learn #NebraskaStrong. There isn’t a book you can read, a website you can look, a diet you can attempt or a subject you learn in school that can help you figure out #NebraskaStrong. You just are. Not clear enough? I tried to think of all the traits that made up #NebraskaStrong, just to give some reference to those not blessed enough to be from this state :-).

  • Loyal – #NebraskaStrong is loyal to friends, neighbors, family and even perfect styrangers.
  • Hard working – If you find a person who is lazy, they are not #NebraskaStrong. The desire to keep working until the job is done is in our very blood. Blame our pioneer ancestors!
  • Kind – Doesn’t mean we don’t have our bad days. Kindness is what happens when your neighbor has a need that you can meet. So you do. Because its the right thing to do.
  • Independent – Again, blame our ancestors. We weren’t begging the government for help or finding someone to blame. We dug in and started helping ourselves.
  • Industrial – We will find a way to overcome any difficulty. We may get discouraged. We may get overwhelmed. But we will figure out how to get to the end of the problem.
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6 things you can do for Christmas with your kids when you don’t have much money.

6 ways to make Christmas memorable

We are closing in on Christmas and your kids have high expectations.  Right?  They can’t help it.  Something about Christmas brings out hope, expectations and even a little magic in even the most bah-humbug person around us.  Our kids have made their Christmas lists (and seriously, why are they so long and detailed?  If they spent as much time doing homework as they did making their Christmas lists they’d be the next Einstiens).  They talk to their friends about what they are going to get for Christmas (“oh yeah, well my mom is going to buy me a pony”.  “Well, my mom is buying me a mansion”) and they spend (what feels like) hours looking at store flyers and watching commercials.

As a parent, we want to give our children everything they want.  We want to be able to buy them the newest and best toys, the newest technology, the coolest clothes (and yes I did use the word “cool” even though its “an old person word”).  So what do you do when you are financially in a rut around Christmas?  How can you give your kids a good Christmas when you aren’t even sure how you are going to pay your bills this month?  How do you even start the conversation about how you cant buy them that new video game system because you bought the whole family a new washer dryer set because yours broke and you like clean clothes?

As a single parent to 2 boys, I have had to be a little creative from year to year.  I can’t buy my kids all things Nike AND the newest video game systems AND the other crazy expensive things on their lists.  I just can’t. (Especially not when I had to replace one child’s school Chromebook due to negligence and my other son is blowing through his shoes like crazy.  You know what I’m saying.  It is always something.)  One year my oldest told me how disappointed he was that I couldn’t buy him an island for Christmas, because that’s what one of his friend’s family did.  How in the world can I compete with an island?

On a particularly difficult year, I didn’t have much money to spend on my kids after all was said and done.  They had a place to live, clothes to wear (thank God for Walmart) and food in their bellies, but beyond that it was tight.  I ended up buying smaller, less expensive gifts, and wrapped them all separately. Their gifts were small and cheap.  The kind of toys that as you are wrapping them, you are envisioning how they are going to immediately break them.  I even bought them socks and underwear and  wrapped them all separately so they had extra gifts to unwrap.  I felt like a bad parent because I didn’t get ANYTHING on their Christmas lists.  I couldn’t afford it.  I felt like the biggest loser.  My kids’ friends are Christmasing on an island and I bought them what will be tomorrow’s garbage. So I made a game out of it.  I hid the gifts all over the house with clues to find the next gift.  You know what my kids said when they opened their gifts that year?  Not “Mom! These gifts are the worst” but “That was the best Christmas ever!”.  I cried when they told me that.  Best Christmas ever?  How is that even possible?

As it turned out, that Christmas was a turning point for us.  We made a mess.  We made memories.  We laughed and threw wrapping paper “snowballs”.  My kids smiled and went to school and told their friends about their fun Christmas.  It wasn’t about what I bought them (or even what I didn’t).  It was about memories.

Recently I was talking to another mom and she was lamenting about how little money she had to spend on her child.  She was in tears, beating herself up for not being able to do something big for her kiddo.  We started talking about fun things she could do that were inexpensive.  As we talked, she was more and more excited about what they could do together.  I have no doubt, her kiddo is going to have a great Christmas this year.  He may not have everything he wanted, but he will get everything he needs (and some great memories to pass on to his kids someday).

So, fellow parents, if you are feeling bad this Christmas season, take heart.  Do a little Pinterest searching for fun Christmas traditions to start.  Even if they are stupid.  Do something fun with the gifts you could purchase.  Years down the road, your kids are not going to remember the gifts you bought them.  They will remember making snowmen with dad in the front yard.  Or making cookies with mom on Christmas Eve.  They will remember having Christmas paper “snowball” fights and drinking hot cocoa while watching a Christmas movie on TV.  Be creative.  If you focus less of your attention on gifts and more on making memories, you too can have the “best Christmas ever”.

I compiled a list of 6 of my favorite things to do with kids during Christmas when you don’ thave lots of money.  Hopefully these will spark your creative juices and you can come up with a fun Christmas for your family! 

Merry Christmas!

Dana